but what if you’re not a mother?
or your mother has died?
Either of these facts tend to make Mother’s Day a very difficult time. If you relate to this, how do you deal with Mother’s Day? I’m re-posting this from last year because I feel it is important. There were so many heartfelt replies so I know many others deal with this day and often struggle through it.
I’m doing good with the no kids part, check out my Kidless & Content article with Sasee:
http://sasee.com/2011/10/01/kidless-and-content/
But I can’t seem to get over missing my mom and Mother’s Day hits hard.
Please leave a comment with how you manage on this day.
Any suggestions or encouragement for each other in either circumstance is most welcome.
I know Jesus is the only One who can fill those empty places in our hearts.
And I also know the Lord will pass the following message on to my mother – the very best mother in all the world. What a day of rejoicing when we’ll be together again!
I’m not in either situation, but I have friends who deeply miss their mother. Whenever we’ve talked about it the conclusion we’ve come to is that it’s okay to miss your mother. Mother’s Day is a day to honor your mother. It’s okay to miss her. It’s okay to be sad she’s gone. Take the day and honor her memory. Three of my friends stand in the church parking lot for almost an hour after the service each Mother’s Day crying and talking about how much they loved their mothers. I think that’s a good thing. Each of these women are mothers themselves and I think remembering why you loved your mom can help you be a good mom. Maybe send flowers to a hospital or nursing home in honor of your mother. Both of those places are bound to have mothers who have been forgotten that would enjoy the flowers.
Hope that idea helps. Prayers and blessings to you!
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Comment by Kristi Ann Hunter — May 11, 2013
Hi Kristi.
Thanks for your suggestions. I think everyone has to find out what works best for them. Last year I spent time with a friend who really struggles with the loss of her mom. We had a lovely time together and shared some great memories. Both of us thankful for the precious gift of our mothers and the years we had them here with us. It is always good to reach out to others who may be struggling and offer encouragement. I like your thought of honoring the memories…no one can take those away from us!
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Comment by admin — May 12, 2013
Cynthia, what a great post for this particular weekend. As you know my circumstances, I’m also kidless and mother-less this Mother’s Day weekend.And to add more coal into the emotional fire, my mother died on May 13th (yes, on a Friday) and it always falls on Mother’s Day weekend.
I tend to squirrel my self away for the weekend. Although I’m focusing on my writing, and on God getting me through this time and His love for me, I did something different today: I reached out to others on Twitter and Facebook, sharing a reflective post I’d written on my blog (on my Thoughts page) about my mother back in March upon seeing a photo of her taken when she was a teen. She was with her sisters and brother. She was smiling widely. And it feels good to see her happy, since I don’t really remember her as a happy person.
Thanks for writing this post!
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Comment by Elaine Stock — May 11, 2013
Elaine, my friend,
Yes, I know your story and I see God’s grace so evident in your life. Thank you for sharing a good memory of your mother. My thoughts and prayers are with you this weekend. My schedule is finally going to calm down a bit so lets get back to our plan to meet up…soon! Miss you, we have much to catch up on.
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Comment by admin — May 12, 2013
I clicked thru from the ACFW loop, because this is something that’s been so much on my heart this year, realizing that this day has an ache to it for so many. I blogged about this very thing last week, too~ about how, although God has fathomless purpose for us right where we are, he also feels our every pain and doesn’t leave us alone in it, even for a second. Thank you for a great post, I’ll be praying for you this mother’s day! (Here’s my post: http://amandadykes.com/mothers-day-for-those-who-ache/)
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Comment by Amanda Dykes — May 11, 2013
Amanda.
Thanks for stopping by and I’ll definitely be checking out your blog post. I’ve learned through trial and error what works for me on this day and what doesn’t work. I’m glad we have a day to honor mothers but as life brings changes, we need wisdom in how we handle these situations. I’m thankful for my sweet husband and the opportunity to spend this day with my sister this year and with adopted family and friends. I appreciate your sensitivity, God bless!
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Comment by admin — May 12, 2013
Hmmm… my mother passed away 14 years ago in June. I miss her more at Christmas than Mother’s Day. The family’s not the same at the holidays without her.
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Comment by Anita — May 13, 2013
Anita,
Totally understand. We’ve learned to work around it as much as possible. The first few years after my mother died, it was so rough getting through the holidays. We discovered it helped to keep busy, get out of the house a lot and cherish what family we still have. Still learning. But we’ll never stop missing our moms.
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Comment by admin — May 14, 2013