ย ย ย ย ย ย ย ย ย ย ย ย ย ย ย you’re not a mother?
ย ย ย ย ย ย ย ย ย ย ย ย ย ย your mother has died?
Either of these facts tend to make Mother’s Day a very difficult time. If you relate to this, how do you deal with Mother’s Day?
I’m doing better with the no kids part, check out my Kidless & Content article with Sasee:
http://sasee.com/2011/10/01/kidless-and-content/
But I can’t seem to get over missing my mom and Mother’s Day hits hard.
Please leave a comment with how you manage on this day.
Any suggestions or encouragement for each other in either circumstance is most welcome.
I know Jesus is the only One who can fill those empty places in our hearts.
And I also know the Lord will pass the following message on to my mother – the very best mother in all the world.
The first Mother’s Day after my mother died was quite hard. I left church early because I felt so weepy. It’s also quite hard when you have a prodigal child who is angry because you won’t accept their sin. Soooo Mother’s Day isn’t my favorite time of the year.
I remind myself that I’ll see Mom again, and that he knows how to handle our grown children.
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Comment by Cynthia L Simmons — May 12, 2012
Cynthia,
I think few people have the “Hallmark” style mother’s day where everything is perfect. It is hard once your mom is gone – but as far as your prodigal child, don’t ever give up on praying for them. My mother’s prayers followed me and my sister for years and made a tremendous difference in our lives. There is nothing so powerful as a mother’s prayers.
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Comment by admin — May 12, 2012
My Mother is in a nursing home in Uniontown Pa suffering from dementia, she doesn’t know my sister or myself. I make sure my day is very special and in doing so I honour her. God Bless my Mother and all Mothers who can not remember any longer who they are, But the Lord does.
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Comment by Donna — May 12, 2012
Donna,
My prayers are with you and your mom. And I agree with you about making the day special.
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Comment by admin — May 12, 2012
I left another comment on the original post. This is a great reminder to me that Mother’s Day isn’t happy for everyone…for a variety of reasons.
Love you and can’t wait to see you in a week! ๐
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Comment by Vonda Skelton — May 12, 2012
Vonda,
I really don’t want to put a damper on the special day for mothers. But as you mentioned, we can be more sensitive to each other and not assume it’s a wonderful day for all.
I can’t believe I’ll see you in ONE WEEK!
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Comment by admin — May 12, 2012
Since the comment link didn’t work (now fixed) I’m posting some replies sent to my email:
Hi Cynthia,
A girl friend of mine whose mom is in heaven, has a lovely photo of her on a dresser with pearls and a perfume bottle. She took a photo of it, and has it on her Facebook page. I think itโs one of the nicest tributes Iโve seen.
Blessings,
Diane Dean White
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Comment by admin — May 12, 2012
Diane,
Thanks for sharing. Sounds like a lovely idea.
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Comment by admin — May 12, 2012
You never get over missing Mom, that’s a fact I’ve learned to live with over the last 15 years. This year was a little better. Now that I have the blog, I posted a special memory about my Mom and that brought her a little closer for a while.
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Comment by Sharon Srock — May 13, 2012
Sharon,
You’re right, you never do get over it. Over time the sharp sting of grief mellows a bit but the ache is always there. Thanks for your comment, I will stop over to your blog to share in your mother’s memory.
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Comment by admin — May 13, 2012
Early on in our relationship, my now-husband appointed Mother’s Day “Jenna” Day. Since we both had lost our moms, and I was never able to have children, he devotes the day entirely to me ๐ I get a card, a little present, we take a day trip somewhere far away from the mall filled with kids and moms shopping, and the typical “big box” style restaurants highlighting Moms. Sadly, I will also forego church on Mother’s Day, as usual, as the public acknowledgement of mothers only (painful to those who lost parents, lost children, or single women past a certain age) just underscores the sadness. Hopefully more pastors will realize they need to include infertile women, widows, singles, and motherless children in the holiday too.
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Comment by JennaVictoria — May 13, 2012
Jenna,
I love the idea of “Jenna” Day. I will pass that along to my husband so maybe we can start a “Cynthia” Day! What a great way to work around it and find joy in your own life. I agree with you about the church not realizing how they affect others on this day. Though I have been to some larger congregations that still focus on the service and the Lord with only a brief time for the mothers. So much better. There needs to be a balance to it which few pastors find. But we are blessed to know that our relationship with God is personal and He understands our hearts. Have a beautiful “Jenna” Day, my friend!
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Comment by admin — May 13, 2012
Nothing prepares you for the loss of your Mother. Nothing. We somehow think our Mothers are invincible and can take care of everything and anything. And they would if they could. It is difficult to write through the tears, but now I have sincere empathy for others who grieve. Cynthia comforted me in my time of deepest sorrow. Now, I can return her kindness. Go ahead and weep openly. Tears are cleansing. And take comfort in knowing that prayers and a Mother’s love are eternal. To Donna: You will have no regrets in your ministry to your Mom in this time of her greatest need. Her mind is affected by the dreaded disease, but her heart hears every word. Happy Mother’s day, my beloved friends.
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Comment by Melody Nobles Gibson — May 13, 2012
Melody,
I definitely shed some tears this week but all in all today went well. Made some wise choices, spent time with a dear friend who has also lost her mother. God is faithful to care for us. Thanks for your words of encouragement and I pray God keeps you close to His heart today.
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Comment by admin — May 13, 2012
Cynthia, thanks so much for “braving” this post, and by this I mean opening your heart to others and sharing your feelings. I didn’t realize you too also have your mom not with you. You know, like you, Mother’s Day really doesn’t upset me because of the lack of children but because my mother had died 24 years ago… though, because of her mental illness, we’d been estranged many years before. Today, I admit I really wish I had a mom to phone when I need someone to chat with and listen with an empathetic ear, someone to shop with, have fun with, someone to prepare a holiday meal with.
My mother died on Friday, May 13th. Today’s Mother’s Day, and the 13th as well. Second to Christmas, churches will be packed with moms and their families today, with moms all wanting to be surrounded by their families and that is why I am playing hooky from church today. I pray that God forgives me. However, I’ll be visiting my mom-in-law later.
It’s a beautiful spring day. I choose to enjoy it, trying to tamp down any squishy feelings.
God loves me. God loves us all.
That’s what counts.
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Comment by Elaine Stock — May 13, 2012
Elaine,
Oh, I hope you did get to enjoy this lovely day! I made some wise choices, avoided places I knew would be “mothers day” in my face and spent time with another friend who recently lost her mom. And I totally understand skipping church on this day. Sometimes it doesn’t feel like church as much as a mother’s celebration event. I’ve learned over the years what works for me and what doesn’t and make my choices accordingly. And yes – God loves us and understands. He is a merciful, compassionate, gentle loving Savior- Jesus knows our hearts.
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Comment by admin — May 14, 2012
Reposted from an email when link didn’t work:
Oh how I struggle with Mothers’ Day! Being a mother was all I ever wanted to be. But by honoring the Lord’s ways, I didn’t marry until I was 42. My husband was worth every minute of the lonely waiting, but we both are childless.
Grace & Peace,
Leslie Payne
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Comment by admin — May 14, 2012
Hi Leslie,
I like your comment, “by honoring the Lord’s ways, I didn’t marry until I was 42.” God bless you for seeking His perfect will and waiting for it! I’ve reached a place where I am kidless and content but I’m with you on the mother’s day issue. Tough day for many people. It helps to reach out to others that are having a rough time. And I also love Jenna’s idea, turning the day into a fun event. Hope your day was blessed with God’s goodness.
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Comment by admin — May 14, 2012
The best part about mother’s day is knowing that our Mom is in heaven with Jesus where she longed to be- her “perfect love”…. and also knowing that we will see her again one day when we will all rejoice around the throne together………..
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Comment by Joyce — May 14, 2012
Joyce,
I remember at the wake how David B. didn’t want to go up front and see her one last time. I kept telling him about how ready she was to go home and we got to laughing because he said, “Are you kidding? Since your mom took care of me as a little boy, all she ever wanted was to get to heaven and see Jesus!”
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Comment by admin — May 14, 2012